This is what all the hype has been around our office the past month. This is what you’ve read about on Facebook or Instagram. Challenges and throwdowns, begging and pleading,reaching for goals. $50,000.00 is a big goal. Especially when we’re asking people to jump down into this icy hole. Very fitting and very deliberate that we have this event, the Frunge – frigid plunge – as a fundraiser for Hearts of Hope Family Grief Camp. The metaphors to what we do, to grief and loss are numerous.
Here’s one that fits pretty well.
There’s a guy (or a woman or a teenager or a child) whose walking along minding his own business when WHAM! he falls in a hole (of grief or depression or substance abuse or mental illness). All the walls surrounding him are too deep to climb out, it’s dark and cold and lonely down in the hole. A doctor comes along and the guy yells up, ‘Hey doc, can you help me out?’ the doctor reaches in his pocket pulls out a prescription and throws it down in the hole. Next a priest walks by and the guy yells up, ‘Hey father, can you help me out?’ the priest writes down a prayer and throws it down in the hole. A friend walks by and the guy yells up, ‘Hey buddy, can you help me out?’ And his friend jumps down in the hole. The guy says: ‘What did you do that for? Now we’re both stuck down in this hole.’ His friend says, ‘Yeah, but I’ve been here before and I know the way out.”.
That’s the story of the Frunge. Each and every person who steps up to the line, (or who cheers from the side or has pledged toward the goal) looks down in the hole and knows what it’s like. Or knows someone who has been down in the hole of grief, frozen and cold to the bone, not sure when or how to get out…and then there is someone there who knows the way. Each and every one has been there and has helped someone else find their way. They step up to the edge of the hole, look down and know that with their plunge, with every dollar they begged and pleaded for, with every chill and shiver, they are that friend. They are willing to go down in the hole and help others find a way out.
How do you thank someone for that? You do the same, when its your turn, when you are looking down in the hole someone has found themselves in, you jump, and you help them find their way out. That’s what Hearts of Hope Family Grief Camp does and will continue to do because everyone on that line come March 5th and everyone cheering, supporting, donating, knows, we’ve been down in the hole too and we’re helping find the way out.